Guys & Relationships ...

My friend emailed me yesterday to tell me that she has given up on guys.

All I could think was ... "it's about bloody time!!"

I know that sounds kinda like I'm man-hating but there is more behind this than that. You see, I find it easier to categorise guys into certain groups so I can filter the good ones from the bad ones. There are catagories

1) THE "FRIEND WITH BENEFITS" GUY - Basically the guy who just likes to hang with you as a friend and get some sweetness on the side. This is the guy that has committment issues and is basically just using you to get his. You have to stay away from this type of guy of your looking for something exclusive because chances are, your not his only "friend" that's offering "benefits".

2) THE "MOMMA'S BOY" GUY - The guy who has never set foot in the kitchen and expects his girlfriend to wait on him hand and foot! Earliest warning sign would be if he doesn't know how to make toast. If this sign is flashed before your eyes - RUN!

3) THE "MONEY" GUY - Simple. The guy who is all about money. Where it comes from and where it goes. The type of guy that wouldn't dream of splashing out on spontenious gifts for you because it's not economical. They a sub-catagory of this type of guy would he be "THE CAREER GUY" - driven by money and power hungry. No woman would survive this guy, unless she was braindead.

4) THE "FUN FRIEND" GUY - The guy most girls have encountered at least once in their lives. The guy that is a close friend who you can share secrets with and knows all about you and your drama's but is not emotionally connected.

5) THE "SOULMATE" GUY - Some people are lucky in life to find this type of guy. When they do, it's an awesome thing. Everyone deserves to be happy in love and if you are lucky enough to find him...then hold on!

Now for me, I find #4 is the best kind of guy to have. Of course #5 is ideal, but not everyone is that lucky! Majority of the guys I know fit into one of these catagories. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know which ones are the top selections, but I guess it depends on what your looking for.

Some girls give in and lose themselves when they are in a relationship. Suddenly 'I' becuase 'we" ... "Oh we don't do that," or "we never go there" and they no longer identify themselves as an individual It saddens me when that happens because a relationship should be about compromise, give and take where both parties have time to enjoy things seperately.

I watched "The Devil wears Prada" again last night and there was a part where Anne Hathaways charater "Andie" is talking to Stanly Tucci's character "Nigel" about her relationship and how it is falling apart, Nigel then relpies, "That's what happens when you become good at your job. Tell me when everything starts to go up in smoke, then you know you're ready for a promotion," (of course it's not verbaitum but you get the idea)

It's true what they say, you can't have a successful career and a successful relationship. My cousin thinks it's only true if you believe it, but what does she know, she's in a relationship...haha no that's sad. I'm sure someone out there will prove me wrong, but I can't help wondering ...if having a good relationship means communicating all the time and give and take, where does that leave your "successful" career?

I'm rambling now...I better stop before I start to get too carried away. Oh, before I forget, my advice to my friend was for her to do what she feels will make her happy (as long as no one gets hurt) it's the only way to beat that lull. Happiness...it's different for everyone but it makes us all feel the same inside.

Warm fuzzies ...