Sometimes people don’t understand just how much their words can affect someone. I know this first hand because I grew up with a mother that was constantly telling me I was never good enough, and for the first few years of my adult life, I found myself believing that was true. It wasn’t until recently though, after I got married and had a baby that it got worse. You would think that after all these years and seeing as we are now BOTH grownups that she would approach me differently, but sadly that was not the case at all. This has caused us to now be on non-speaking terms and to be honest I feel like my life has become a whole lot more happier and positive since.
Depending on the type of person you are you have two options when you are presented with this type of issue in life:
1) Let their negativity and hurtful words eventually destroy you OR
2) Get up, and prove to them (and yourself) that they are wrong
No one should have the power to make you feel like you are worth nothing because you ARE worth something. You were not a mistake. You were put here on earth for a reason and it is up to you to go out there and find that reason. Use what you are good at to share positivity and goodness around the world.
People who bad mouth you or talk about you have their own insecurity issues, that is not your problem, its theirs so just dust yourself off and do you. Move on to better things, it might not happen overnight but it is a transition that will be well worth it in the long run.
Yes, this is easily said than done and believe me I know. I was constantly beating myself down and feeling like I was everything my mother told me I was – dependant and unable to look after myself let alone another living being. And I do know how the hurtful words can be painful and pierce you like a thousand knives over and over until you feel so caged in you can’t see past anything anymore and your vision of the future is blurred, making you feel it’s impossible to ever break free.
But I have news for you my friend. No matter how horrible the pain, no matter how hurtful the heartache, there will always be a bright light at the end of the tunnel. Nothing comes from nothing. Success & achievement comes from those who work hard at it. So my advice for anyone who has been beat down and feels like they cannot go on is this:
Today is your opportunity to do amazing things. Amazing things can be as small as helping a stranger. It’s up to you to go out there and find what it is that makes you stand above the rest. Chase your dreams and don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t, because the only person that will ever stop you from achieving what you want in life ... is you. If you had a bad day – congratulations, you are human. Everyone has bad days – it is up to you how you will take these bad days, you can either concede or admit defeat or you can fight back and believe you can overcome it.
Whatever the pain, whatever the sorrow and heartache, just know that there are others out there just like you that feel this kind of thing all the time too, you are not alone, and you can choose to be an example to them that when you were at your weakest, when you were down and out , you put your feet to the ground and pushed upwards, fighting for that first breath of freedom from the negative chains that held you down for so long.
I believe in you x
